How to counter verbal attacks [转帖]&

LeslieNg

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Almost always, chronic verbal abusers behave the way they do for one of two reasons:

几乎毫无例外，惯性 口不择言/喜欢语言攻击/唯恐人不死唯恐天下不乱者 之所以如此，无外出于两个原因：


* A small percentage are simply klutzes. They're ignorant. They know no other way to communicate with other human beings. All they need is education.

其中的小部分，他们根本就是傻B。他们无知，也不懂得该如何和其他人类沟通交流。他们只需受教育。


* As for the rest, they're desperate for attention and they know that throwing hostile language at you will get your attention.

剩下的部分，他们乞求得到别人的注意。他们知道乱泼春水可以获得您的注意。


In both cases, once you understand what's really going on, your reaction to such people will no longer be, "Danger! Red alert!" Your reaction will be compassion. As in "oor thing. Desperate to communicate, and that's the best he/she can do." Or "oor thing. Desperate for attention, and that's the best he/she can do." You still may not like the attacker and you'll still find the attacker's behavior unacceptable, but you won't have any interest in arguing.

无论哪种情况，一旦您明白到这个道理，您对这些家伙的反应变不会再是“危险! 警觉!”了。您的反应会变成同情，例如：“可怜的家伙，渴望与人沟通，他/她顶多只能做到这样了。”或“可怜的东东，渴望得到别人的注意，他/她最多只能这样做了”。您依然不会喜欢这种言语冒犯者，并觉得他们的行为不可接受，但是您也再没有兴趣和他/她“争论”了。

试译：Leslie

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